After arguing with a student about his poor activities in English class, I got this answer "I have enough money and do not need learning English, in case of need, if I happened to be in a foreign country, I will hire a translator or interpreter." He also went further by saying that he could read translated books or he would by a good dictionary to be used for translating the texts he needed to know in Persian.
I tried to calm down and convince him to improve his English knowledge, stating the necessity of learning this language in today's world but it looked as if it was useless to make him eager to learn English. Then I remembered this common saying that "You may take a horse to the river but you can't make it drink". However I didn't give up and tried to find a solution to the problem. Whatever I tried to get near to him he rejected.
This continued till one day that I accidentally became aware of his interest in music while he was listening to his mobile set. I asked him gently if he enjoyed it and to my surprise he said," Yes but I do not care about what he is saying, I just enjoy the music and the way he is singing". I replied that he would enjoy much more if he had known the meaning of the song .Reluctantly he showed some eagerness to know the meaning of the song in Persian and I did my best to explain it in Persian. The singer was Elvis, singing about poor people and saving their lives.
It was the beginning of piercing into his mind to find out more about his interests in other fields like swimming and football. I had found the key to solving the matter and little by little he showed some willingness in learning.
Of course some teachers may not like to involve themselves about students' interests and leave the scene when they come across with this kind of students.
We, as teachers, should be able to do something beyond our teaching tasks and if we make good relationship with our students we can read their mind and interests to reach our goals. I am sure teachers can improve students' behavior too if they honestly do themselves what they want from others to do. Students need patience and attention but teachers before attending a class must know some knowledge and experience of psychology and management. How can we establish a sincere atmosphere? how to react in different circumstances and much more, how to recognize their abilities, interests and dislikes. It is necessary to mention that strengthening student's self respect and self actualization is of high priority and I think it will be achieved by mutual understanding .A teacher who is worried about his daily problems like missing a house or a flat to live and cannot balance his earnings with his family expenses is not blamed to be careless and indifferent to students' needs as mentioned above. On the other hand a student who has many monitory problems and has not been able to satisfy his basic needs cannot jump to the stage of self-actualization. Once again it is necessary to review Abraham Maslow theory of human needs: 1. Basic physiological needs 2. Safety from external danger 3. Love, affection and social activity 4. Esteem and self-respect 5. Self-realization and accomplishment Teachers should take the said theory into consideration in motivating their students to learn any subject of studing.
What has happened to us?
Time has changed the good courtesy of students towards teachers and what is important now for majority of students is passing an exam and getting a degree. In the past times teachers were more valued and students were more cautious about learning. We really need some research to find out what has caused these matters.
Students' interests and their basic needs are very important and they must not be ignored when teaching a foreign language. The more we care about this matter the more we improve their knowledge of that language. Sometimes students hate their teacher and it avoids them from progressing .Another point to be taken care of is the society and governments' roles to make life meaningful for students. In a society of low employment rate, there is no desire for learning and better education. I am sure you agree with me that here is a meaningful relation between students' life expectancy, satisfaction and learning.
This was an experience I like to share with you and I would be happy if I get your feedback on this or similar matter.
What's your opinion about having good relationship with your students? Have you ever done something to affect and change them?
Abraham Maslow Hierarchy of needs: http://www.time-management-huddle.com/abraham_maslow.html Best wishes